If you are a repentant sexual addict, and is working out your healing according to this blog, then marriage will stop sexual addiction.
The concern that your sexual addiction will linger if you're already married is a legitimate concern. It's not about what kind of sexual addiction you have even you still relapse up to now. It is about the faithful execution of the works we are discussing here. If you're saying doing the good works that you can easily do here and now is not a kind of loving, and so you are not doing it, whatever the timing is of your complete stopping of the work we've been recommending here, be it before, during, or after marriage, then marriage won't help you too. Likewise if one becomes completely healed outside marriage (which depends on the gravity of one's compulsion that's why others can recover faster than those addicted when they're still children), the continuing of this work of chastity even in single blessedness, becomes an effective way to love.
Answering the question what good you can easily do here and now while preparing for marriage will make you look for a job, be more industrious, learn to cook, etc. Likewise, the question will have a different set of answer for those who are married already. Your wife is sick and you want to make love. What good can you easily do there and then? You ask her questions if she needs medicine, blanket, or rather go already to the doctor. Won't that rather give you indulgence to offer fasting from sexual intercourse for your sins and then act out some higher form of loving your wife? That is why I'm saying that the Pauline text to marry is better for sexual addicts, and it will really help them a lot. Using prostitutes or having a second wife is almost a question of being obedient to one's Catholic faith already and more than being a question whether marriage can stop sexual addiction. It is a choice of being married with your prostitute or your second wife or your real wife. Choosing the life offered by Jesus Christ is the fullness of life which is monogamous in nature. The blue print of what will really make us happy has already been established by our Creator in Jesus Christ. Nothing beats self-fulfillment, the fullness of life than half-truth. Marriage and love gives one more than sexual pleasure, but also tender loving care, etc., until death that both marriage partner part ways.
The question whether there is better healing process for sexual addiction than marriage is another concern than the above. The Pauline text is as we've said a Divinely inspired cure that necessitates in us almost the obedience of faith to crown it the number one solution to sexual addiction. Bringing it down as ineffective will ask the question "What then is the best cure for sexual addiction?", which will push us to seek and not find since we've overlook with disobedience what God is already giving us hint towards the healing of one's sexual addiction.
The question on the difference with strong sexual drive with sexual addiction can be ontologically solved easily that both will tend to marriage or should tend to marriage. Other culture and beliefs have set other solutions than marriage ennobled by Jesus Christ in the form of a sacrament. Some cultures has historically set up priestess to offer sexual intercourse as a form of religious worship. I cannot give you the complete solution for sexual addiction outside my Catholic faith then.
The question whether it should be obligatory then for sexual addicts to marry is of another kind. We should give emphasis to the value of free choice, a former sexual addict marrying not just for the maintenance of chastity but also and more so because he wants to marry this or that woman of a noble character. Homosexuals, on the other hand, if modern medicine can't yet cure their abnormal tendency, have to choose celibate loving, which depends on the gravity of their incapacity since other homosexuals do marry.
Holy Mary, Mother of God, pray for us sinners!
The concern that your sexual addiction will linger if you're already married is a legitimate concern. It's not about what kind of sexual addiction you have even you still relapse up to now. It is about the faithful execution of the works we are discussing here. If you're saying doing the good works that you can easily do here and now is not a kind of loving, and so you are not doing it, whatever the timing is of your complete stopping of the work we've been recommending here, be it before, during, or after marriage, then marriage won't help you too. Likewise if one becomes completely healed outside marriage (which depends on the gravity of one's compulsion that's why others can recover faster than those addicted when they're still children), the continuing of this work of chastity even in single blessedness, becomes an effective way to love.
Answering the question what good you can easily do here and now while preparing for marriage will make you look for a job, be more industrious, learn to cook, etc. Likewise, the question will have a different set of answer for those who are married already. Your wife is sick and you want to make love. What good can you easily do there and then? You ask her questions if she needs medicine, blanket, or rather go already to the doctor. Won't that rather give you indulgence to offer fasting from sexual intercourse for your sins and then act out some higher form of loving your wife? That is why I'm saying that the Pauline text to marry is better for sexual addicts, and it will really help them a lot. Using prostitutes or having a second wife is almost a question of being obedient to one's Catholic faith already and more than being a question whether marriage can stop sexual addiction. It is a choice of being married with your prostitute or your second wife or your real wife. Choosing the life offered by Jesus Christ is the fullness of life which is monogamous in nature. The blue print of what will really make us happy has already been established by our Creator in Jesus Christ. Nothing beats self-fulfillment, the fullness of life than half-truth. Marriage and love gives one more than sexual pleasure, but also tender loving care, etc., until death that both marriage partner part ways.
The question whether there is better healing process for sexual addiction than marriage is another concern than the above. The Pauline text is as we've said a Divinely inspired cure that necessitates in us almost the obedience of faith to crown it the number one solution to sexual addiction. Bringing it down as ineffective will ask the question "What then is the best cure for sexual addiction?", which will push us to seek and not find since we've overlook with disobedience what God is already giving us hint towards the healing of one's sexual addiction.
The question on the difference with strong sexual drive with sexual addiction can be ontologically solved easily that both will tend to marriage or should tend to marriage. Other culture and beliefs have set other solutions than marriage ennobled by Jesus Christ in the form of a sacrament. Some cultures has historically set up priestess to offer sexual intercourse as a form of religious worship. I cannot give you the complete solution for sexual addiction outside my Catholic faith then.
The question whether it should be obligatory then for sexual addicts to marry is of another kind. We should give emphasis to the value of free choice, a former sexual addict marrying not just for the maintenance of chastity but also and more so because he wants to marry this or that woman of a noble character. Homosexuals, on the other hand, if modern medicine can't yet cure their abnormal tendency, have to choose celibate loving, which depends on the gravity of their incapacity since other homosexuals do marry.
Holy Mary, Mother of God, pray for us sinners!
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