Only through the motive of mercy and understanding, we permit it, to prevent xxx-rated masturbation becoming ingrained or hardened again.
But the rule still applies that if one can, let one marry and not just imagine marrying.
If not for the culture of pornography, if not for the culture that prevents real communication and encounter, I would not permit this vicious cycle coming from an artificial psychological incapacity.
The challenge is to let repentant sexual addicts become capable financially, psychologically, spiritually, socially, to bear the sweet burden of marriage as a kind of one's sharing in Christ's cross.
If there will be permission it was due to the hardness of the heart. And this is not the official teaching of the Church, so whatever the Church calls us towards, like in the living of the fullness of life, let this teaching be done away with.
Likewise it was permitted for the process of healing sexual addiction which aims towards the habituation of chastity itself in its fullness. So it was like a temporary permission only with a view towards doing away with it when the complete healing comes.
The backlash after the temporary permission is granted is that there is a fixation effect of the chaste celibate body to transition to a body already accommodating that of the married body's orientation. In effect it will still long for sexual union without the marriage which is not yet even in sight. The target is to let the body stay on the chaste singlehood equilibrium until marriage is already granted by God.
St. Augustine, pray for us!
But the rule still applies that if one can, let one marry and not just imagine marrying.
If not for the culture of pornography, if not for the culture that prevents real communication and encounter, I would not permit this vicious cycle coming from an artificial psychological incapacity.
The challenge is to let repentant sexual addicts become capable financially, psychologically, spiritually, socially, to bear the sweet burden of marriage as a kind of one's sharing in Christ's cross.
If there will be permission it was due to the hardness of the heart. And this is not the official teaching of the Church, so whatever the Church calls us towards, like in the living of the fullness of life, let this teaching be done away with.
Likewise it was permitted for the process of healing sexual addiction which aims towards the habituation of chastity itself in its fullness. So it was like a temporary permission only with a view towards doing away with it when the complete healing comes.
The backlash after the temporary permission is granted is that there is a fixation effect of the chaste celibate body to transition to a body already accommodating that of the married body's orientation. In effect it will still long for sexual union without the marriage which is not yet even in sight. The target is to let the body stay on the chaste singlehood equilibrium until marriage is already granted by God.
St. Augustine, pray for us!
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