We may never know the difference especially when there is a continuity between the two.
But more importantly as the Jesuits tell us, defining a thing starts correctly our journey.
This love addiction link teaches us why we can't move easily with our exes because the good memories are always being replayed in our memory and has similar effect to cocaine use. As such love addiction is a stumbling block to moving on if it is the appropriate thing for you to do. Nevertheless break ups don't have to leave you broken. Although I have grave incompatibility with my ex which is about religion, waiting for her to revert back to Catholicism, is almost an impossible task, that I have to go to Mass daily for it to happen (it's like we're outsmarting to attract sexually each other to give in to our separate religion), you might yourself want your ex back and Brad Browning has a quiz and advice if you still can win your ex back. (I don't agree completely though like with Brad Browning's suggested premarital sex idea that your girlfriend will be back with you in bed in no less time, so please discern and sift what is according to our Catholic faith.)
Now we as reforming sexual addicts know what sexual addiction is, which is not really love according to Dr. Patrick Carnes. You sexually fantasize other girls whom you don't have any romantic relations with, almost started, depraved, and perpetuated by pornography.
Sexually fantasizing your beloved though is a sin too but is in between love addiction and sexual addiction.
We are defining these things precisely so that we may be able to use the right cure for the right diagnosis. And just generalizing that you are a bad sexually perverted addicts, don't do much good, and actions for reform won't point us to the right direction.
But more importantly as the Jesuits tell us, defining a thing starts correctly our journey.
This love addiction link teaches us why we can't move easily with our exes because the good memories are always being replayed in our memory and has similar effect to cocaine use. As such love addiction is a stumbling block to moving on if it is the appropriate thing for you to do. Nevertheless break ups don't have to leave you broken. Although I have grave incompatibility with my ex which is about religion, waiting for her to revert back to Catholicism, is almost an impossible task, that I have to go to Mass daily for it to happen (it's like we're outsmarting to attract sexually each other to give in to our separate religion), you might yourself want your ex back and Brad Browning has a quiz and advice if you still can win your ex back. (I don't agree completely though like with Brad Browning's suggested premarital sex idea that your girlfriend will be back with you in bed in no less time, so please discern and sift what is according to our Catholic faith.)
Now we as reforming sexual addicts know what sexual addiction is, which is not really love according to Dr. Patrick Carnes. You sexually fantasize other girls whom you don't have any romantic relations with, almost started, depraved, and perpetuated by pornography.
Sexually fantasizing your beloved though is a sin too but is in between love addiction and sexual addiction.
We are defining these things precisely so that we may be able to use the right cure for the right diagnosis. And just generalizing that you are a bad sexually perverted addicts, don't do much good, and actions for reform won't point us to the right direction.
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