Former sexual addicts should discern the same way as suggested by St. Ignatius for all.
However, it is a special case where former sexual addicts should discern a call for chaste celibacy depending already on his healing. If he/she is still plagued by sexual addiction and has not mastered chastity completely, then it is not for him/her to avoid getting married, which St. Paul suggest is better for the salvation of those inflamed with passion.
Of course, of course.
Since it is a given for the former sexual addict to discern his vocation will be in the direction of having to marry, it doesn't mean his discernment is finished.
When, who to marry, how, where, what career will be supporting this marriage, what additional work God wants done, are questions that must be answered.
That's it. Just make sure not to wallow in discerning if God is still calling you to chaste celibacy if you can't. It will ruin your momentum to enter marriage in the proper time appointed by God.
I was reminded of my dream if I can be a doctor. But my fear of blood, fainting mostly, always quickly redirects me to things I can really do. Sorry to all still struggling former sexual addicts, since chaste celibacy requires a decent amount of something we haven't been gifted with either by nature or by nurture being shielded from the world's contagion to capacitate someone to answer such call to chaste celibacy.
However, it is a special case where former sexual addicts should discern a call for chaste celibacy depending already on his healing. If he/she is still plagued by sexual addiction and has not mastered chastity completely, then it is not for him/her to avoid getting married, which St. Paul suggest is better for the salvation of those inflamed with passion.
Of course, of course.
Since it is a given for the former sexual addict to discern his vocation will be in the direction of having to marry, it doesn't mean his discernment is finished.
When, who to marry, how, where, what career will be supporting this marriage, what additional work God wants done, are questions that must be answered.
That's it. Just make sure not to wallow in discerning if God is still calling you to chaste celibacy if you can't. It will ruin your momentum to enter marriage in the proper time appointed by God.
I was reminded of my dream if I can be a doctor. But my fear of blood, fainting mostly, always quickly redirects me to things I can really do. Sorry to all still struggling former sexual addicts, since chaste celibacy requires a decent amount of something we haven't been gifted with either by nature or by nurture being shielded from the world's contagion to capacitate someone to answer such call to chaste celibacy.
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