Tuesday, November 14, 2017

The Short Message the Blessed Virgin Mary Gave Me

It may not be an internal locution.

And I have questioned it for two decades.

This is the Blessed Virgin Mary's short message:

"What good can you easily do here and now?"

The message may just be for me. There is no need to write it publicly with an assumption that it is an internal locution.

However, I have written that counting good acts can help the real compulsives, I termed powerpointing.

I have to admit publicly the internal locution (for the benefit of my reader) which also doesn't tell me to count my good acts like St. Therese wrote:

"I know that certain spiritual directors advise us to count our virtuous acts in order to advance in perfection. But my spiritual director, Jesus, does not teach me to count my acts. He teaches me to do it all for love."--St. Therese's Little Way-Von Balthazar, Hans Urs Von Balthazar, ed. Gerard Bugge, http://www.crossroadsinitiative.com, October 2009.
Thereby I declare that counting good acts I termed powerpointing is against the internal locution I received contrary to my previous firm belief.

 The more one does what is good, the freer one becomes. --Catechism of The Catholic Church, art. 1733.
The above quote from CCC should not be interpreted to count our good acts to have that measuring device to help compulsives have some sense of progress in his struggle against his compulsion. According to St. Thomas in his Summa art.3, "...a habit of virtue cannot be caused by one act, but only by many." Thus we are to do many good acts like St. Therese did a thousand little acts, no counting but in a rather consolidated fashion.

There is a need thus for me to make public that message coming from the Blessed Virgin Mary just so that my readers might be informed of this very important message against my previous firm belief that powerpointing can help compulsives.

Here is a short account:

I hit rock bottom, I was helpless, and I called the Blessed Virgin Mary, begging her to help me and tell me what to do with my life. "What good can you easily do here and now?" Her short message was a refreshing water coming from nowhere that gave me such strength to rise and work out my life starting with the easiest good act I can do right there and then. Of course I have read the phrase "here and now" from St. John Paul II for example and the rest can be just a concoction or aha phenomena of my mind. The fact is, I focused on counting while thinking what good I still can easily do. I should have answered the Blessed Mary's question easily and did it easily without further counting.

I answered, "I have to get up from this bed and drink water since I might already be dehydrated, My Mother."

She answered, "Do it."

So I did. And then another good I can easily do and another so on. There's no counting but I'm already on my feet and the habit or ease of doing what is good is back on track.

Whether or not it's an internal locution, on the other hand, St. Therese word has a nihil obstat, and so counting good acts must stop. Though St. Therese' word might not be doctrinal, it still requires our obedience of faith to things we might not easily understand. Some things can't be easily understood and requires an Angelic Mind like St. Thomas Aquinas to grasp a mystery and still end up like a baby talk compared when we will see God face to face and understand everything perfectly.

The above quote of St. Therese is a negation, and bears no more than that. What is more important is her little act spirituality, as is the question of the Blessed Mother to me. The idea of easiness points towards my gifts and calling since what might be easy for me can be a million times difficult for another--a fact that my heart longs for such since I was created uniquely for that. This desire is present in that good acts that I can easily do--a great clue given to us by the Blessed Mother to stir us to love or desire what is good despite the failures. The rational undertone of the question is indeed a misnomer. Doing it all for love is the atmosphere of the little acts or easy acts. If you need intimacy or affirmation works, it seems that the little acts or easy acts are cold but they are not. The all too illusive meaning of emotion and its abuse is almost dismissed when we remember CCC art. 1767 that "It belongs to the perfection of the moral or human good that the passions be governed by reason." Finally if to love is to will the good of another (CCC art. 1766), does it mean there are good acts which hates the good of another? WCC, CMP, Chap. 8 on integral human fulfillment, pointed out that if acts should be good they always are relationally good also, meaning those seemingly good acts that doesn't respect this element of goodness are not good at all. In the wake of our environmental awareness, drinking a soda in a plastic or buying one on a paper cup becomes a monumental tasks today we can no longer dismiss as insignificant.

There should also be no redundancy, confusion, and sense of no direction, sense of disconnect when you seem to be doing unrelated little or easy tasks. Consider this article When Solving Problems, Think About What You Could Do, Not What You Should Do and its own journal source. In the context of the should→could→would or morality→possibility→personal preference, the fence is the should where inside the fence we can do the could but we actually choose to do what we want to do. St. John Paul IIs genius tells us that progress is not in opposition to the traditional, but standing on the shoulders of the giants, we will actually see the path to real progress, a lower limit to morality but without a higher limit; not just an aha phenomenon as Pope Benedict XVI told us, but an intentional creativity, not accidental but a labor of reason and love. In short we know what we should not do, we think of what we can do because of that easy yoke or rod that guides, and then we further choose from among the possibilities as to our liking or capacity.

Holy Mary, Mother of God, pray for us sinners!



Monday, October 23, 2017

How Should Former Sexual Addicts Discern?

Former sexual addicts should discern the same way as suggested by St. Ignatius for all.

However, it is a special case where former sexual addicts should discern a call for chaste celibacy depending already on his healing. If he/she is still plagued by sexual addiction and has not mastered chastity completely, then it is not for him/her to avoid getting married, which St. Paul suggest is better for the salvation of those inflamed with passion.

Of course, of course.

Since it is a given for the former sexual addict to discern his vocation will be in the direction of having to marry, it doesn't mean his discernment is finished.

When, who to marry, how, where, what career will be supporting this marriage, what additional work God wants done, are questions that must be answered.

That's it. Just make sure not to wallow in discerning if God is still calling you to chaste celibacy if you can't. It will ruin your momentum to enter marriage in the proper time appointed by God.

I was reminded of my dream if I can be a doctor. But my fear of blood, fainting mostly, always quickly redirects me to things I can really do. Sorry to all still struggling former sexual addicts, since chaste celibacy requires a decent amount of something we haven't been gifted with either by nature or by nurture being shielded from the world's contagion to capacitate someone to answer such call to chaste celibacy.


Tuesday, September 19, 2017

Imagining Befriending A Girl not Sexual Fantasies

A normal single male sees a beautiful girl. What will he think next? He will think about how to befriend her.

We former sexual addicts don't understand that too well.

We even think it's talking to her how we feel about her as the first order rather than sexually fantasizing about her.

What is her religion? Is she kind? Is she in the first place single or doesn't she have a boyfriend? How would you be able to know all those facts if you'll attack first with telling her how infatuated you are with her. Wrong move.

Befriending her first is the safest move to be connected with her, so that if she's married already, if she doesn't agree joining your religion which you may prefer, if you find that she's a witch, you know what to do, stay away but still remain an acquaintance or just a friendly good neighbor.

Becoming a friend comes with imagining situations how your first conversation would be like or how you will handle it. Yes, this calls for the most powerful weaponry a sexual addict has, using his imagination to plan how you will pass the first base of becoming her friend.

Yes, if you're ready to court a girl please start with that already, and pray to St. Raphael (use our prayer here), so that your first conversation might not end into a disaster, the Enemy enjoying blocking your way so that you'll not be able to marry and stay a sexual addict.

Mother Mary, help me!