Imagining Befriending A Girl not Sexual Fantasies

A normal single male sees a beautiful girl. What will he think next? He will think about how to befriend her.

We former sexual addicts don't understand that too well.

We even think it's talking to her how we feel about her as the first order rather than sexually fantasizing about her.

What is her religion? Is she kind? Is she in the first place single or doesn't she have a boyfriend? How would you be able to know all those facts if you'll attack first with telling her how infatuated you are with her. Wrong move.

Befriending her first is the safest move to be connected with her, so that if she's married already, if she doesn't agree joining your religion which you may prefer, if you find that she's a witch, you know what to do, stay away but still remain an acquaintance or just a friendly good neighbor.

Becoming a friend comes with imagining situations how your first conversation would be like or how you will handle it. Yes, this calls for the most powerful weaponry a sexual addict has, using his imagination to plan how you will pass the first base of becoming her friend.

Yes, if you're ready to court a girl please start with that already, and pray to St. Raphael (use our prayer here), so that your first conversation might not end into a disaster, the Enemy enjoying blocking your way so that you'll not be able to marry and stay a sexual addict.

Mother Mary, help me!

Prayer to St. Raphael

St. Raphael is the patron saint of healing since Raphael means "God heals".

Sexual addiction is also a kind of sickness or disability caused by our own perverted ways.

And since marriage is being pointed by St. Paul for the control of one's sexual appetite, St. Raphael is the patron saint of happy meeting of singles too.

He should be a sexual addict's patron without hesitation.

Novena to St. Raphael

(The Novena Prayer to Saint Raphael must be said for nine consecutive days.)

Glorious Archangel Saint Raphael,
great prince of the heavenly court,
you are illustrious
for your gifts of wisdom and grace.
You are a guide of those who journey
by land or sea or air,
consoler of the afflicted,
and refuge of sinners.
I beg you,
assist me in all my needs
and in all the sufferings of this life,
as once you helped
the young Tobias on his travels.
Because you are the medicine of God,
I humbly pray you to heal the many infirmities
of my soul and the ills that afflict my body.
I especially ask of you the favour

(Make your request here...)

and the great grace of purity
to prepare me to be the temple of the Holy Spirit.

Amen.

St. Raphael,
of the glorious seven
who stand before the throne of Him
who lives and reigns,
Angel of health,
the Lord has filled your hand
with balm from heaven
to soothe or cure our pains.
Heal or cure the victim of disease.
And guide our steps when doubtful of our ways.

To St. Raphael, Angel of Happy Meetings & Catholic Singles

O Raphael,
lead us towards those we are waiting for,
those who are waiting for us!
Raphael, Angel of Happy Meetings and Catholic singles,
lead us by the hand towards those we are looking for!
May all our movements, all their movements,
be guided by your Light and transfigured by your Joy.
Angel Guide of Tobias, lay the request we now address to you
at the feet of Him on whose unveiled Face you are privileged to gaze.
Lonely and tired, crushed by the separations and sorrows of earth,
we feel the need of calling to you
and of pleading for the protection of your wings,
so that we may not be as strangers in the Province of Joy,
all ignorant of the concerns of our country.
Remember the weak, you who are strong--
you whose home lies beyond the region of thunder,
in a land that is always peaceful, always serene,
and bright with the resplendent glory of God. Amen.

 

Pray Ardently for a Chastity Belt?

Technically it is a special grace like the ones given to St. Thomas Aquinas, St. Faustina Kowalska, etc. and we (me and my intended readers) don't have the state of celibacy to whom it is commonly given by God for a very obvious reason.

However due to everyone being called to live a holy life, and former sexual addicts finding it very hard to live chastely, technically, yes we can ask for that be it special, no matter when and/or if it will be given or not at all but just another grace.

Yes, ask it from our Blessed Mother. Don't think ahead that if you'll receive this grace you'll be automatically be embracing chaste celibacy and enter religious life. What is more important is that we be holy, and yes God doesn't force anybody against his/her will. God willing, you can become more open to God's graces and really be capable of embracing the religious life and thus become more charitable in your response however you intend to marry in the future while asking for the special grace of a chastity belt. Then there can be a technical specification if there is really a grace of a chastity belt for married couples, for everyone is called to chastity. That topic is out of our range due to lack of traditional literatures about that topic. Suffice it that you pray hard for that grace, through the intercession of our Blessed Mother.

Prayer for Chastity of St. Thomas

"Be fruitful and multiply, and fill the earth and subdue it;" Gen 1:28

God doesn't want it to mean license to just give in to our sexual appetite without reason. And so those doing it outside the sacrament of marriage for example is sinning and not doing God's will. The reason psychology is amassing as proof that children needs a stable family with a father and a mother is a welcome testament to God's commandments. Fornication, same sex marriage, contraception, are amassing evidences of its irrationalities we are just beginning to understand. Remember that we are finite in our understanding. The things we thought before as correct about abortion for example must be set aside as a new day dawns.

Let's focus on contraception as seemingly contrast to the Bible passage above. We are always talking here about our sexual addiction may I remind. Let the lawmakers do their work.

I am still single until now. So what? I am a sexual addict who can remain with a measure of chastity, and still can remain single not giving in to mere sexual passion to already marry. I have my reasons for remaining single still. Is the world around me marrying just for the sake of their sexual appetite? Are they carrying on God's Word above righteously? Not everybody. Not the irresponsible fathers or mothers. Not the unwed mothers. For God had his will already clarified in the Catholic Church about marriage.

The situation is complex. Not all sins are one's fault. A single mom have to carry out the responsibility of say teenage adventure without having to kill her baby. The challenge is to be perfect. How did couples faithfully carried on their relationship in such an imperfect world. The fact is, it can be done. God's standard had been set, if we can do it, why the hell should we disobey it. Because everybody is doing it? Nope, there are still faithful Christians out there, a shining star in the night. God's grace is not lacking. I can say I could have been the worse sexual addict in the world, but comes the grace of God, my story I am sharing here, and I was not. I EVEN CAN STILL REMAIN SINGLE AS LONG AS I HAVE THE REASON TO STAY SINGLE. Where on earth did I found the strength to do that? Not from me who've been afflicted with SA since a child. I think the grace to be able to do it came from God, which I am sharing in this blog. GOD'S GRACE IS NOT LACKING. We can do it because his grace is mightily present in our midst.

I have my reason to still stay single say to bring forth spiritual gifts to others. Did I contracepted? Did I told my girlfriend to abort our baby because I'm not yet expecting it? Am I using the services of prostitute? I did not. I've been graced. Such sins are against the above Bible passage. I will be fruitful and I will multiply. And yet I'm not doing it irrationally, I'm doing it according to God's will. One day my children will be doctors to care for the sick. I will raise priest and religious children to praise God. I will support a child to become an engineer scientist to solve modern day problems. And I will do it according to reason enlightened by my Catholic faith.

Rationale for Discontinuing Recommendation for eHarmony

They continue to support homosexual dating, and so they support homosexual relationships, which is alarming. It may not on the surface project a single trace of it in their straight relationship dating advices, but at the back of it is a philosophy bent to self-destruct itself.

A Catholic should look for safer grounds, and so I advice you not to use its services. I highly recommend http://www.avemariasingles.com

To be fair, you can discern by yourself what makes for a good advice coming from their dating advices, which will be your own decision and is now outside my recommendation.

Digital Monitoring Device

I dream of a digital device that monitors my sexual hormones. It has a numerical screen display like a wrist watch telling me that the activity I did, food I ate, circumstances, etc. increased the hormone that will later spike my uncontrollable sexual waves.  But in time, by observation it also teaches me to combat such spike in the level of my sexual hormone by experimenting what activity, food, circumstances, etc. do actually decrease my sexual hormones.

It's a promising device because it feedbacks level of actual surge in sexual hormone and not just out of my inferences, guess, and imagination. It then will also give me information on what really pulls down such sexual hormone to its normal level by observing the feedback of the device and what I did or I'm doing.

Please develop such a device for the healing of our sexual addictions. Thank you.

A site link to an estrogen hormone measuring chip:  http://www.mosescone.com/122983.cfm

 

edit 28 February 2021

As ideal as this device can be, I think I don't need it anymore. All this time, I have learned to control myself, though I still have relapses. No it's not the food I ate. Of course I am aware that drinking coffee at night and then have my computer works can occasion recurrences and relapses. But most other times it didn't. It was my sin and weakness. Yes, only a spiritual life can deal with conversion. Only God can save us. And yes I am aware that they are my sins no digital device need to retell that to me.